Love and Life After Birth
How to create a family culture where everyone thrives.
6-9th of July 2023 Eden Rise near Totnes Devon
Are you expecting a baby?
Have you been focusing mainly on preparing for the Birth?
Birth is a momentous event, for you and all involved.
It is also the doorway to the even more significant experience awaiting you:
Becoming a parent, or being a new parent again.
Are you prepared for this?
For the immense love...the delights of discovering
the minute details of your baby's face...
the feel of their soft skin on your cheek.....
the heavenly smell of their head....
and the sense of Wonder...and Awe...
And also for the powerlessness and frustration
when you don't understand their needs and
they won't sleep or stop crying.....
Are you prepared for the vulnerability you may feel, faced with the uncertainty of entering (or re-entering) this new and often challenging territory, and the reactivity this may bring to your relationships?
Do you know the values and qualities you want to bring to your parenting?
Your baby matters! You matter too and so does your union!
How will you navigate the changes to your identity, roles and relationship?
How will you ensure your non-negotiable needs are met, once your baby is here?
Whilst no one can predict the twists and turns of your unique parenting path, this retreat will equip you with some essential skills and knowledge to help you create a family culture where everyone can thrive and where you can
navigate the challenges that will undoubtedly arise in your lives as parents.
It will provide the chance to fortify your connection to each other and your baby and plan your family's dreams and goals, based on the values that are truly important to you.
Alongside these explorations, there will be plenty of time for good food, enjoyable activities, laughter and relaxation, for connecting with other expectant parents and building friendships that may be enjoyed for many years to come.
There will be an opportunity to keep meeting and learning together, as your parenting journey unfolds.
A Delicate Transition
"There were many conversations about parenthood I wished we'd had before our first daughter arrived, rather than trying to hash through them when we were both sleep deprived and stretched to our limit after our baby was born"
'Nearly every parent I have spoken to, whether friend or client, has shared similar stories about the challenging transition to parenthood and how unprepared they felt for the massive life changes.'
The top reason couples break-up within a year of their child's birth:
'We stopped communicating properly about anything'
'Dr. Gottman’s research suggests at least four hurdles with the potential to trip up your marriage. You’ll have a better chance at surmounting them, however, if you have strategic conversations with your partner before the baby comes along, or very soon thereafter.
You may not be aware of how the baby changes your family and individual identity.
You may not talk about the tensions a new baby causes.
You may not take care of your health and well-being as individuals or as a couple.
New fathers will sometimes withdraw. '
Dr Gottman's solutions to the above hurdles.:
Gorgeous Setting... Gorgeous Food...
Eden Rise: “A place for inspiration, celebration and gratitude where visitors can reconnect to the earth and receive nourishment of body, heart and spirit.”
Organic, seasonal, largely plant based dishes, lovingly created and prepared by nutritionist and cook Florence Seck
All activities are optional
At any point during the retreat, but especially during the free time sessions, you can wander around the stunning 7 acres of land surrounding the centre, and enjoy a relaxing massage/treatment. In the evening you will be able to enjoy tea and chats in the comfy lounge or by the fire, weather permitting.
3 pm: Arrival, tea and snack
3.30:: Relaxation. welcoming circle, introductions and practicalities
6.15 pm Supper
7.45 Coaching session
9.15-12.45 Morning practices and Coaching session
Tea break at 11 am
1 pm Lunch
Free time/River paddle/Walk /Massages/treatments
4 pm: Coaching session
6.15 pm: Supper
7.45 Social time/sauna etc.
9.15-12.45 Morning practices and Coaching circle
Tea break at 11 am.
1 pm Lunch
Free time/River paddle/Walk /Massages/treatments
4 pm: coaching session
6.15 pm: Supper
7.45 Dance with DJ Charlaquin
9.15-12.45 Coaching circle.
1 pm Lunch
Tidying our beautiful space and gentle clean together
Packing our belongings.
3 pm Labyrinth Walk followed by Closing circle
4 pm: Returning home, feeling connected, nourished and excited about our life
Cost; Fom £480 per couple/co-parents for:
- 2 Zoom calls,
- 4 days of all in-person activities and
delicious meals (most special diets can be catered for).
Accommodation within two beautifully converted barns: from £150 per couple/co-parents. Non-residential possible. Please 'view gallery' for images of the accommodation
Massages, treatments, and counselling are an extra cost (from £25).
There are only 2 places available now on the retreat (2 couples/co-parents) including 1 low-cost place. Please get in touch with Olivia to apply for the subsidised places.
A deposit of £200 secures your place.
An instalment plan is available.
Meet the Team
Inspired coach, eternal student and teacher of woman wisdom, mother of 4, doula trainer and birth trauma therapist, Olivia has supported women and families for over 2 decades, especially through transitions such as pregnancy, birth, and motherhood.
Having recently retired from her birth work, Olivia now focuses mainly on her practice as a holistic pregnancy and parenting coach. She still offers healing birth trauma sessions as this is still something she is deeply committed to.
In 2011, she founded and still co-run Radiant Mama (formerly the Totnes Holistic Birth Hub) a Devon project that offers info, emotional and practical support, classes, holistic therapies and a nourishing lunch within a community of like-minded parents – all on a donation basis.
Being a woman and a mother in the 21st century has been a deep exploration in her personal and professional life.
Her intention now is to share what she has learned and offer her presence and the tools she has gathered along the way, in service to women, families and a more peaceful and loving world.
Retreat Assistant Nutritionist and your cook
Florence has had a love of cooking since being a young child and discovered the healing power of food through her own health journey. This led her to train as a naturopathic nutritionist.
Florence has created a nutritionally balanced and tasty menu for you to enjoy and be nourished by.
Her recipes are inspired by the seasons and use mostly organic, local ingredients.
For more information on Florence and her work visit her website: https://www.florenceseck.com/
Charlaquin is a local DJ bringing some much-needed booty-shaking bass to Devon. Inspired by her travels in Uganda and Latin America, her music has a taste of the rhythms and beats from these parts of the world.
As your DJ for the night, she will take you through a musical delicacy of serene melodies to pumping booty bangers. Expect downtempo afro house, drum and bass, techno, world beats and global bass.
Her dances are based on the principles of an Ecstatic Dance. The music for the night will follow a ‘wave’ where the energy builds to a peak, dips down, builds to another peak and then finally lands in a softer place to end.
Check out her Soundcloud for previous mixes she has done, and her Instagram for more information:
Soundcloud - https://soundcloud.com/charlaquin
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/charla.quin/
Massage therapist and Doula
Thea qualified from the Exeter School of Bodywork with a diploma in full bodywork and then added Myofascia release (MFR), which she now integrates into her massage.
She is able to use pelvic diaphragm release to help mal-positioned babies turn into more optimal positioning for birth and has completed a pregnancy massage diploma.
Thea is also a very experienced doula.
In her own words: "One of the things I love about working with birth and people in preparation for birthing is that it is a rare space and time where honesty rises and demands a voice. The sheer biological nature of growing a baby and birthing it- and oneself as a mother, a couple into parents- is that it invites a steady standing with reality. A coming to terms with who one is at that moment. From that place, there can be an unfolding and a discovery of what would best meet one's needs, in this deeply personal adventure. From there, the shape of my job emerges. I offer antenatal, birth and postnatal support. "